The one-question quiz.
With everyone and their grandmothers getting their panties in a wad over whether or not gay marriage (or even civil unions) should be allowed, it’s always interesting to survey the gay community to determine levels of interest. While for some it’s a crucial issue that demands daily recognition and daily efforts to force the gay rights movement forward, for others it’s just a passing point of interest, sometimes degenerating into downright apathy.
The problem is that the importance of gay marriage doesn’t sink home for many people because we tend to think “I can’t, so why bother worrying about whether or not I would?” So rather than ask whether one is interested in fighting for gay marriage rights, instead ask: if you could legally marry, would you?
If gay marriage suddenly became legal in your state/province/country/incorporated territory/that freaky monkey shack where you live, would you get married?
(a) In a heartbeat. My partner and were already thinking about it.
(b) Yes, if I had someone I wanted to marry.
(c) Yes, but only to spite people who were against it.
(d) Maybe. I’m not sure, or I’m at a stage in my life where I can’t
really think of things like that.
(e) Not in a million years. Marriage freaks me out.
(f) No, although I’d support others who did.
(g) God, Adri, your default answers always suck so much. I have
another response and I’ll elaborate in the comments.
(h) I’m not gay or bi, so this doesn’t really apply to me since I’m
allowed to marry whom I please (although that’s not going to stop
me from sharing my opinion on it in any way at all).
I think I’ve already made my answer quite obvious: somewhere between e and f. I’m happy for anyone else who wants to get married, but me? Never going to happen. My knuckles are too thick to get a properly-sized ring on and off anyway. (Yeah, yeah, I know, men always have an excuse, no matter how lame. I think fear of marriage is hardwired into our DNA.)
What about you? Got the itch to get hitched?
gay marriage, civil unions, ball and chain, two balls and a rather short lead line, tying the knot…with your tongue, I’m just making up tags
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February 1st, 2008 at 4:53 am
H is the one that applies to me, but I certainly hope that my boyfriend will ask me to marry him someday =)
February 1st, 2008 at 5:03 am
I’m somewhere between B, D and G… I’m still only 18, so I don’t really know for sure where the emotional part of my life is going to go… Not that anyone ever necessarily really KNOWS. But my love life has been rather more complicated than is necessary recently and it has left me sort of confused about all this relationship stuff…
I think that if I was in a stable relationship with a partner that I felt that it wouldn’t freak out, I would be interested in a civil union or marriage if it was legal, but I’m not sure, I haven’t been put in that situation or anything like it yet.
I think that it is a question that I will rethink when/if I have a steady long term partner…
I really ramble on here too much… Blame it on me being a sleep deprived college student… Oh well.
Adri S.
February 1st, 2008 at 5:17 am
D. Guess your answer will let me go in eyes wide open, huh?
February 1st, 2008 at 2:49 pm
D. I’d definitely love to get married someday, but I’m too young right now, and it’ll take several years before I’m financially stable enough to even think about it anyway. Plus the girlfriend and I have only been together seven months, and she’s in her first year of college. That’s something we’ll talk about in three or four years, but not now.
February 1st, 2008 at 7:38 pm
…Wow. How did I manage to forget that same-sex marriage IS legal here in Massachusetts? You’d think I’d pay more attention to these things. o.o
I feel like I’m obliged to say D, being only seventeen and all, but I’m really more an E/F kinda guy. I’ve never even had a boyfriend (and the very idea frankly baffles me) never mind anyone I might consider marrying someday. *shudder*
February 1st, 2008 at 8:23 pm
I would have to go with D. I’m not sure if I would ever want to get married. Maybe if I met someone I really cared about and wanted to spend the rest of my life with, I would change my mind.
February 1st, 2008 at 10:09 pm
I, like you, would be a mix between e and f. The marrying business isn’t really my style and if it happens, well that would simply be the result of my parents drugging me and kidnapping me into an abyss of marriage….or something along those lines
Peace, love and chocolate chip cookie dough!
February 1st, 2008 at 10:09 pm
(H). I’m straight, but I won’t let that stop me…
I was in Boston, at City Hall at midnight, the exact hour when same-sex marriage became legal. I actually witnessed the first legally-married same-sex couple in all of American history. I was there because it was a moment in civil rights history that will someday be mentioned in high school textbooks along side Seneca Falls. I was thinking to myself, “This is what living in the ‘Land of the Free’ is supposed to mean.”
It remains the only goddamn moment in my entire life I have been proud to be an American.
February 2nd, 2008 at 1:47 am
Sort of h, but it’s not like I don’t care.
Some people I know deserve it just as much as I or anybody else willing does.
February 2nd, 2008 at 12:49 pm
I’m thinking d or f right now. I’m not sure how I feel about the institution of marriage right now….clearly - the whole happily ever after forever thing seems a little silly, and the entire state/church issue is another thing entirely.
Still - I think that those that want it, should be able to have it, because anything less is discrimination, and discrimination gets me all worked up.
February 2nd, 2008 at 2:18 pm
D, probably, but the “marriage” part isn’t so important anyway as I don’t care about religion one way or the other.
February 4th, 2008 at 1:34 am
(B) for me. (Although I’m a pagan, so it would be a handfasting instead.) At least, if (B) implies “with the right person and everything,” too.
February 5th, 2008 at 3:15 am
I’d vote B. And E. B qualified by the word “if”, so I can’t rule that out. But on the other hand, E, because the thought of marriage does kind of freak me out.